Well the decision was made: I came out of the closet
First I told my kids (my fiance already knew) and then posted on Facebook after texting a few friends. So far positive responses but the family hasn’t been online yet. They are uber-Conservative “Christians” so we’ll see what happens.
I had explained to my kids exactly what gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc. meant. That I am attracted to and would fall in love with men or women. That gays and lesbians only are attracted to and fall in love with those of the same gender as them. Whereas straight people are attracted to and fall in love with people of the opposite gender. We went around the circle and I said “I like boys or girls to be my boyfriend or girlfriend” My oldest son said “I like girls” my youngest son said “I like girls too, I think.” I asked him “I think?” He said Yeah I like girls. I explained that if he liked boys that would be perfectly okay and normal. He said “No I do like girls, I was just thinking, so who knows he is only 9 (just turned 9 on 2/14). My daughter then said “I like girls and boys, it doesn’t matter the gender of the person I fall in love with.” My oldest son, thought that gay people shouldn’t get married because they couldn’t have kids (he saw the reason of marriage to only have kids, he’s 12) when I countered with “Well they could adopt” he said “Good point. No they should be able to get married then.” I asked if they were okay with me being bisexual and they assured me that it didn’t bother them at all. I got big hugs from all three and it made me want to cry tears of joy. I asked them if they remembered an ex-girlfriend of mine Amy whom they knew was a “friend” but we never did anything in front of them like kiss or anything (she later outed me to a couple of cousins of mine after I broke up with her she was CRAZY). My oldest did a little and I said “Yeah she was my girlfriend for a little while.”
Because of the initial reaction my oldest son gave me I wanted to talk to him a little more to get into his head. We had recently left a very restrictive Christian church (I recently threw away all my Bibles) just to see if they had filled his head with crap. So, I later pulled him aside especially to see what he truly felt and if he was okay, that he didn’t feel differently. I asked if he felt there was anything wrong with being gay and he stated “It doesn’t seem natural (mind you he is a very scientific kid)” and that sounded like words that would come from my grandmother who preaches in the above mentioned church. So I told him the story of the gay penguins who would steal the eggs of other penguins because they wanted to be parents and when there was an egg who was abandoned, the zoo keepers gave the egg to this couple, they were just as good of parents as the others. He was surprised about that and I intend on looking up the story so he can see I wasn’t full of it or making up a story, I think it would interest him because he loves science so much. I asked if he felt differently about me now that I told him that I am bisexual. He assured me that nothing has changed and he loves me regardless. He gave me a big hug and said “It doesn’t matter you are my Mom.”
I really have some great kids, a huge, huge weight has been lifted of my shoulders. Now let’s see how the rest of the family reacts?
